Yes of course! We prefer it that way, actually.

I once asked hubby why we did so little bondage. He asked if I missed it. I said no, but everyone else seems to be sooooo much into it.
He said he preferred to control me with his mind... and as it happens, it is what I like better, as well.

Things do not only get done out of fear or by force. On the contrary.

There is nothing wrong with you, I assure you!

What counts is: Am I happy, and is my partner happy?
There is no "only right way to do BDSM"... I even think the facettes and options are as numerous as are the people in the lifestyle.

Someone else once said "BDSM is not about toys... it´s about power exchange", and I agree with this very much.