Desires and needs

[arwcuw]

I know what you mean. Sometimes it is hard to separate your needs from your wants, and not just in the sexual sense.

I used to think that I "wanted" to masturbate in bondage, and that I could stop. Until I tried to stop. I couldn't totally eliminate it from my life, therefore, to some degree, I need it.

It's a lot easier to deal with when the "desire" or "need", whichever it is, doesn't require another person to be played out. I don't have to pay a professional to fulfill my needs, at least not yet. And I hope that if I ever get to the point when I need another person, I'll have a partner who's willing to oblige. I'll be lucky if I do.

Not sure what to say to your problem. If your wife is okay with you going to a professional, then I say, don't worry and just have fun. If not, then you'll find out if it's really a need or just a desire.

[Warbaby1943]

Not sure what to say to your problem. If your wife is okay with you going to a professional, then I say, don't worry and just have fun. If not, then you'll find out if it's really a need or just a desire.

arwcuw,

Thanks for the input. My wife has no idea but, again, that was another thread. It is still part of my dilemma. If she knew and approved, I'd be visiting the lovely Mistress I found every month at least once.