bdsm checklist

[annie]

It also sounds like a troll magnet waiting to happen I fear...

And there is a thread here somewhere that has BDSM checklists that you can fill out and post on the thread and refer people to if you wish too.

[samm]

It also sounds like a troll magnet waiting to happen I fear...

And there is a thread here somewhere that has BDSM checklists that you can fill out and post on the thread and refer people to if you wish too.

Didn't know that, I'll have to look it up then. Thanks for telling

I don't know whether it would be a troll magnet or not, I never heard of things like Bastardino and Poppers but as some of you are saying, a checklist appears in very different shapes and sizes.
Probably because it is something personal and everyone is different, and that's a good thing right?
I agree that the scoring systems and explanations are sometimes confusing or just plain bad, but I am not sure whether creating a new one will solve that problem.

If there already is a checklist topic, as annie said, then it may be a good idea to just keep using that topic. Checklists are just a means of communicating preferences and limits to eachother anyway, so if anything is unclear or you want to know more, then you just talk to eachother about it.
Communicating seems to be the key to everything ^^

Anyway, it still could be a nice addition, because you wouldn't need to leave the site for it, just click through to someone's checklist. Plus there would be some consistency in it and you wouldn't have to look too far for the sections that interest you.

Keep coming with those opinions

[samm]

I think I found the topic annie referred to.

link

[craven]

It also sounds like a troll magnet waiting to happen I fear...

And there is a thread here somewhere that has BDSM checklists that you can fill out and post on the thread and refer people to if you wish too.

alas i fear annie could well be right on this one, the checklist is very comprehensive and a great tool, but i feel should only be used between people that have established some form of trust and understanding

the easiest way is to ask questions and get to know people by chatting to them, all are very friendly and open here, as annie says there is a need to ensure that the fine line between openness and protection is policed

thanks annie for highlighting the dangers of posting too much open info

not sure if people have been able to find the check list, and apologies now for the length of it, but it is worth it it trust me, here it is, oh and one last tip (this one comes from experience, take your time in filing it in, dont do as some do (me) and start skipping through to complete and return the thing, this can lead to a whole new set of problems for you with your potential Dom(me) !! trust me

very self explanatory, just copy and paste it to word or an email and fill in your responses to the elements listed, no, 1,2,3,4 and 5 etc

No – hard Limit
1 Really not keen on soft limit
2 Not keen on/borderline soft limit
3 Consider normal and acceptable
4 like, and into
5 very keen and want to do

Abrasion:
Age play:
Anal sex:
Anal plugs (small):
Anal plugs (large):
Anal plug (public, under clothes):
Animal roles:
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):
Asphyxiation:
Auctioned for charity:
Bathroom use control:
Bestiality:
Beating (soft):
Beating (hard):
Blindfolds:
Being serviced (sexual):
Being bitten:
Breast/chest bondage:
Breath control:
Branding:
Boot worship:
Bondage (light):
Bondage (heavy):
Bondage (multi-day):
Bondage (public, under clothing):
Bondage and Sex:
Breast whipping:
Brown showers (scat):
Cages (locked inside of):
Caning:
Catheterization:
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):
Chastity belts:
Choking:
Clothespins breast/nipples:
Clothespins labia lips/clit:
Clothespins body:
Cock worship:
Collars (worn in private):
Collars (worn in public):
Competitions (with other Subs):
Corsets (wearing):
Cuffs:
Cuffs (metal):
Cutting:
Double penetration:
Electricity:
Enemas:
Enforced chastity:
Examinations (physical):
Exercise (forced/required):
Exhibitionism (friends):
Exhibitionism (strangers):
Eye contact restrictions:
Face slapping:
Fantasy abandonment:
Fantasy rape:
Fantasy forced deep throat:
Fantasy forced cunt licking:
Fantasy forced rape anal:
Fantasy gang-rape:
Fisting (anal):
Fisting (vaginal):
Flogging:
Following orders:
Foot worship:
Forced dressing:
Forced homosexuality:
Forced masturbation:
Forced nudity (private):
Forced nudity (around others):
Forced servitude:
Full head hoods:
Gags (cloth):
Gags (penis shaped):
Gags (rubber):
Gags (tape):
Gates of Hell:
Genital sex:
Given away to another Dom (temp):
Given away to another Domme (temp):
Given away to another Dom (perm):
Given away to another Domme (perm):
Golden showers:
Greetings rituals:
Hairbrush spankings:
Hair pulling:
Hand jobs (giving):
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs):
Harnessing (leather):
Harnessing (rope):
Having food chosen for you:
Having clothing chosen for you:
Head (giving cunnilingus):
Head (giving fellatio):
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot waxing:
Housework (doing):
Human puppy dog:
Humiliation (private):
Humiliation (public):
Hypnotism:
Ice cubes:
Infantilism:
Initiation rites:
Injections:
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:
Interrogations:
Kidnapping:
Kneeling:
Leather clothing:
restraints chains:
restraints leather:
restraints rope:
Lectures for misbehavior:
Licking (non-sexual):
Manacles & Irons:
Manicures (giving):
Massage (giving):
Massage (receiving):
Medical scenes:
Modeling for erotic photos:
Modeling for erotic videos:
Mouth bits:
Mummification:
Nipple clamps:
Nipple cloths pins:
Nipple weights:
Oral/anal play (rimming):
Over-the-knee spanking:
Orgasm denial:
Orgasm control:
Outdoor scenes:
Outdoor sex:
Phone sex (serving Domme):
Phone sex (serving Domme's friends):
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):
Piercing (permanent):
Prison scenes:
Pony slave:
Public exposure:
Public tasks:
Pussy/cock whipping:
Pussy worship:
Riding crops:
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals:
Religious scenes:
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Rubber/latex clothing:
Rope body harness:
Saran wrapping:
Scratching – getting:
Scratching – giving:
Sensory deprivation:
Serving:
Serving as art:
Serving as ashtray:
Serving as furniture:
Serving as a maid:
Serving as toilet:
Serving as waitress/waiter:
Serving orally (sexual):
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Shaving (head hair):
Shaving (pubic hair):
Sleep deprivation:
Sleep-sacks:
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Spanking in private:
Spanking in public:
Spanking in bdsm parties:
Spanking pleasure:
Spandex clothing:
Speech restrictions:
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:
Standing in corner:
Stocks (adjustable):
Stocks (fixed):
Straight jackets:
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):
Strapping (full body beating):
Suspension (upright);
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:
Swallowing semen:
Swallowing urine:
Swapping (with one other couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Tattooing:
Teasing:
Tickling:
Triple penetration:
Triple penetration by 3 males:
Including others:
Vaginal dildo:
Verbal humiliation:
Vibrator on genitals:
Voyeurism (watching others):
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):
Video (watching others):
Video (recordings of you):
Water torture:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Whipping:
Wooden paddles:
Wrestling:
Roleplay:

[Skyybird]

Call me old fashioned but....surely all of this is where you should be having conversations and getting to know each other?

I suppose if you were engaging in activities with a paid professional it would be sensible to have a contract in order to eliminate any misunderstandings, but in a relationship/friendship etc, I think, one should always discuss and experience things before deciding if you like it...

for example...anal fisting could be great fun with one partner, but totally awfull with another depending on proportion and technique.

I'm afraid I dont believe, with regard to a checklist, that one size fits all, if you pardon the pun!

[thrall]

It also sounds like a troll magnet waiting to happen I fear...

And there is a thread here somewhere that has BDSM checklists that you can fill out and post on the thread and refer people to if you wish too.

Im with you here annie...


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