Faibhar, I'm not implying that you would be so shallow or heartless as to leave a partner of 20 years for someone younger and in better shape. But if looks are unimportant to a person, if he/she is open to people regardless of how they look, if his/her arousal comes from what is in the partner's heart and mind, rather than his/her body, it is less likely to happen.
Sorry to pick on you woodsman'sgame but this quote was perfect for my point.

Before I continue, I implore you Faibhair to please let me know if I have grossly misinterpreted the message conveyed in your posts.

I think that Faibhair deserves a rereading of his initial post. He not only discusses the unsightliness of a lot of people at these munches that he has attended, but he also discusses the mundane conversation and that many of these people do not have the personality to make up for their unattractiveness. This means that Faibhair's resistance to fat did not deter him from conversation or trying to get to know these people. He did talk to these people and must have tried to find redeeming qualities in them.

I agree that somebody who seems unattractive on the outside can be attractive on the inside and I find that I can look past the physical in some cases because mental attraction does usually lead one to some sort of physical attraction. However, there has to be an attraction from somewhere. Faibhair was not able to find attraction for the types of people at these munches physically OR mentally.

Attraction/chemistry is very important and I myself will never session with somebody if I do not feel some sort of attraction physically AND mentally for them and I don't feel that I suffer from having these standards. Passion is not present without attraction.

I have met many in this realm and there are A LOT of people whose appearance actually allude to their personalities...in a very negative way. And yes, a lot of these people were fat, but for me it wasn't the fat per se but how they took care of themselves and presented themselves (I believe this notion was also mentioned in a previous post). Most of them were the epitome of fat slobs physically AND mentally.

Yes, Faibhair may focus more on the physical than a lot of you do, but it is also doesn't seem that Faibhair is solely dependent on it. He does not advocate solely looking at the physical. I am sure that he would not be attracted to a physically beautiful person without being attracted to their mind as well. Atleast this does not seem to be the case from his posts. And it also doesn't seem that he lets unattractiveness stop him from getting to know the people at these munches. But talking to these people made him realize that it is hard to find a person in this realm who is attractive in any way. This is something that I fully understand.

Faibhair, I sympathize.