I discovered early that I was a highly sexual, but I didn't know that my fantasies of being abducted would lead to this lifestyle. I also dated many vanilla people, all who were more passive than I was. Having done that, it was very hard to try to convince them to tie me up, or be forceful with me, or anything. I always was the one in control. It was about then that I (finally) realized that I didn't want someone passive who wouldn't control me. I wanted someone who would take me in hand and control...well, almost every aspect of my life. I am not a slave, but I give my Dom a lot of control because I don't want it.