I think it has quite a bit to do with your mindset at the time. When Ragoczy has me submit to him, puts me "in scene", or otherwise uses a ritual it brings my submission back to the forefront of my mindset. Once that is done it calms me and allows me to envelope myself in my submission to him and place all of my trust in him. Without that bit of a nudge I am distracted by so many things whereas once he's given me that nudge I know that he has taken the responsibility to be concerned about all those many things and I can relax in his domination.

Ok, that probably doesn't make any sense, but it's the best I can do right at this moment! If I think of a clearer way to put it I'll post more

-kitten