I'm sorry...

[Alex Bragi]

"Love is never having to say you're sorry", sure, you've all seen those sappy words dripping from posters and cards bearing those even sappier images--it's like pure saccharine for your sole! I guess the insinuation is that if someone really and truly loves you then they'll put up with you no matter what. Love is never having to say you're sorry my ass, if you've fucked it up with someone you care about those are the exact words that should be spilling out of your mouth.

I remember this guy I used to date, no matter how he fucked up, and believe me he was one hell of a fucked up bastard, he always remained unrepentant: “How can I say sorry for something I didn’t do?" Ironically the problem was he thought being a perfectionist make him perfect. Let me tell you, he had a very short shelve life with me.

When I fuck up, I own up.

Rather interestingly, studies reveal that generally women have a tendency to apologise more easily than men.

Tannen, PhD, author of "I Only Say This Because I love You" :"Men often worry about being seen as weak, so they don't like admitting fault. They see apologizing as a form of public humiliation and a move that makes them more vulnerable to criticism. Plus, they just don't see the point. For many men, words don't count as much as actions, which is why if they've done something wrong, they'd rather show their remorse by not doing it again."

So, I guess the bottom line here is, ladies, when he does fuck up (and he will) don't expect him to always apologise but do look for some other form of peace offering.

Ah, but I digress...

I think it's a good character trait to be able to admit when you're wrong and apologise because, as sure as I'm never going to have big tits, we're all going to fuck up at some time in our lives, so why not at least try to do it with a little bit style and grace?

We've all heard it before "we learn by our mistakes". I guess what that really means is that it's the cleaning up and not necessarily the fucking up that's important. I kind of like that idea. Me? I fuck all the time so I get plenty of practice.

I think the faster you can address the fuck up the easier it is to clean up. I also believe it’s not as important to explain why you're sorry as much as just simply acknowledging that you're sorry; that you regret your words or actions, and you're wanting acceptance of and forgiveness for what ever it was that you fucked up in the first place.

Having someone accept an apology can feel kind of good; like washing away the guilt and remorse. It's an acknowledgement that you can fuck up and they'll still care enough to forgive you, but then for fuck sake don't do it again!

An honest apology can mend relationships, dissolve anger, soothe shattered pride or heal a broken heart. Just like the words, "I love you", "I'm sorry" can be equally as powerful. Yet we so often just get so caught up in our own way of seeing things that we find it difficult, and occasionally even impossible, to muster an apology for simple errors of judgement or poor choices that we later regret. We allow our over blown egos and stubbornness to rule our lives.

Life is just too short for gripes, grudges, and resentments.

So, if you're sorry, I say, say it, mean it, and move on.

[dewran59]

Well said, Alex and Thank you.

[dlitefulsub]

[QUOTE=Alex Bragi;707414] Me? I fuck all the time so I get plenty of practice.

Was this a Freudian slip?

On a more serious note, I agree with everything you've stated; however, too many times people take the words "I'm sorry" for granted. I mean they use it constantly, but never change their ways.

Thank you for the post.

[Euryleia]

So, if you're sorry, I say, say it, mean it, and move on.

Hear, hear!

[snowflake]

You are so right Alex so long as you don't do it again at least not intentionally..

My Ex was famous for ..: i would say sorry if i could remember doing it" Seems he only got amnesia when he beat me.. hmmm never could understand it but he still couldn't say it even when he saw the blood and bruises..

Tester i can honestly say he does say it when he messes up ..no matter the reason and tries to correct the problem, maybe that is one of the strong reasons we are still together .. He is willing to admit when he is wrong..

My Opinion

Hugs
snow

P.S. i have that outfit in your avie .. winks

[good_girl]

So, I guess the bottom line here is, ladies, when he does fuck up (and he will) don't expect him to always apologise but do look for some other form of peace offering.

Personally, I think the "other form of peace offering" is more important...my ex was famous for spouting "I'm sorry! there are you happy now?" and then he would immediately do the same thing again...the words to me are just words without meaning, maybe some day someone will show me otherwise

[gagged_Louise]

Personally, I think the "other form of peace offering" is more important...my ex was famous for spouting "I'm sorry! there are you happy now?" and then he would immediately do the same thing again...the words to me are just words without meaning, maybe some day someone will show me otherwise

Even more putting off is when some guys - this is an almost exclusively male act I think - once he's been unreasonably jealous or angry, goes on to revel in remorse and self-chastizing in words "Auuugh, I was drunk. y'know..I made an ass of myself darling...I promise I'll never never do like that again" and then a few weeks later it's the same all over again, and then the same "rough wake-up". Sucks balls.

[denuseri]

when i get a sorry from my man its rare but greatly apreciated, even more rare is the gift with a sorry but if i am giving him a sorry its ussually punctuated prior or after with some spanking of my bottom fllowed by oral gratification

but hey thems the breaks in this house lol

[MacGuffin]

There is another possible "insinuation". To truly love somebody you must truly know them. And if you know them you should know what will hurt them. Love is never having to say you're sorry for the simple reason that you never do anything to say sorry sorry for.

[manda]

It would be nice if life were that easy ---there's always the unintentional hurts ---these are what we need the sorry for. No matter how well you know someone and love them, there comes a time when you cause them pain -I'm sorry is the best and simplest way to ease that pain.