You are the Dom.
That means you dictate, top, control.
Seems to me that's exactly what you're doing.

If circumstances bring you to the conclusion you want your scenes to proceed differently, that's when you change. Not at the behest of someone else, no matter what they perceive themselves to be.

If there were but one way to be a master, we'd give ourselves a different name and proceed as we wish anyway. That's because we're dominants and we take charge!