I agree with the above, and was pretty much what I wanted to say. In my personal experience, my relationship with my dominant started with a few simple 'rules' which naturally developed into more rules with rituals as our relationship grew.
I even began doing an action which I enjoyed doing for him every night, and now it is my bedtime ritual which he loves as much as me.
I hope your conversations go well, let us all know what happens if you can.