Question about romance

[jeanne]

...do you always have to be harsh and demanding or can you be both?
demanding but flexible? romantic but kinky?

You summed it up right there. Demanding but flexible - I like that phrase.

I remember often being the one to do the 'cleaning up', etc...but in a way it was still part of the play. To continue, afterwards, to serve, is something we both enjoyed. But I also remember times that I simply collapsed. Slid right into sleep, snuggled up against Him, or under His feet, late at night...I enjoyed that too. We both did. It really does just depend on the state your submissive is in. That awareness on the part of my Dom was key.