Quote Originally Posted by FROZENGRAPES View Post
Hi all , again with another question to pose to both subs and doms...
It was told to me by a Master i know that a good Mistress/Master never steps out of role. This was the sitch:
after a session my girl would be so exaughsted she could barely stand. sometimes would faint from the orgasm. she was also a squirter and would make a huge mess of herself. In these situations, i would clean her up after laying her down to rest. and then clean myself up.
Now i was told by doing that i was stepping out of role and a dom should never clean a sub or service her in that way. that she should clean me and then herself, no exceptions...
I Dissaggree completely. Because even if i enjoy dominating her, i do think that a big part of my role is to care for her and make sure she is safe and comfortable. so i do not think there is anything wrong with this.
I also was told that a Mistress is not supposed to be "romantic" but is a D/s relationship just that? a relationship. with all different sides and layers? do you always have to be harsh and demanding or can you be both?
demanding but flexible? romantic but kinky?

any thoughts are welcome.....thanks!
Okay, I wasn't going to post in the Dom's section, since I am not and felt like it wasn't my place, but I have to say something. I know, from my point of view, that I love taking care of my Master. Getting him things, cleaning up after sex, and so forth. BUT (and that's huge) if we had play time where I was passed out afterwards, or needed taking care of in some way, I know that my Master wouldn't hesitate to do so. That's part of being a Master or a Dom in my opinion. You allow you Sub/Slave to happily service you, but it is still your job to know what they need. If they need romance because they are depressed, or need to be beaten then pampered, then you should know them well enough to understand and provide that if you are able. Sorry if I am stepping out of bounds by being so forward about it...