I wish FROZENGRAPES would have named this person, if for no other reason to warn unsuspecting submissives.[/QUOTE]

i understand your concern however this person is not on this website. I did check that before posting this here. I do not understand truly his theories, however that is why i joined this site. Because he was giving me advice and told me that if i behave in this way that i would lose my little girl's respect, because it was not showing my "strong side" and would untimatly ruin our relationship because she would not feel secure. I did not agree with this and decided to join here to get to know more people in this lifestyle and see if all felt this way. I have bee pleasently surprised.... thank you for all your advice... this site has opened me up to many new experiences that i am loving. it is just a matter of baby steps to learn all of my responsibilities and carry them out in the correct and most loving manner for my sub.