I can't agree more with what everyone has said.
a d/s relationship is still a relationship between lovers, friends, and confidents... just like any 'vanilla' relationship. There's just a twist to the dynamic.

if someone beat me and did not care for me afterwards if I wasn't able to myself... I would feel horrible and abused. Even if I can care for both of us after, it's a really sweet gesture to have someone want to care for you. Sort of like pillow talk. It's those tender, intimate moments that I think solidify bonds and trust.

No one should ever believe a soul that tells them romance isn't important in a relationship.
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