It actually took me almost 1.5 years to stretch enough to take a fist. Just larger and larger toys. Let me say the journey is as much fun as the destination!!! At first I could only take 3/4 of a fist for only a couple minutes. Now Ive worked up to taking a LARGE fist up to the wrist for about 20 minutes. Large fist can even clench when inside and pull straight out and push straight in once Im warmed up. In this same time my kegals have gone from 50-200+ a day. The pay off to me is the extreme relaxation and release of stress. OMG the orgasms!! Ive had as many as 20 in one go!! According to hubby I am even tighter than I used to be. And my increased fine muscle control also does delicious things for him!!