Is skin color a fetish?

[bambina]

Hmm that makes me wonder then McGuffin. Is sodomy a fetish? I mean it's pretty common but, on the other hand, in some states is so taboo that it's illegal. You see it in the movies all the time but it hasn't really been too accepted. If someone says "I forked this girl in the ass" everyones head turns and they say "You did WHAT?!"

I guess I get what you all are saying. And, in the back of my mind, I knew it all along. But I just can't help but feel this twinge of guild whenever a black guy takes interest in me. He could be nice. He could be sexy. He could be well rounded. He could be kinky. Smart. Witty. Fun. Cool. friendly. But when it comes down to it, he's still black. And I hate for the reason I don't take interest in a guy to be because of his skin color. Because that's the one thing that you can't change about yourself. It would be different if I wasn't attracted to someone because they were, say, 50 pounds overweight. if they wanted to, they could lose it. Or if I didn't like their hair color (red on men has got to go). Or any number of other things. Hell, even the sex that you are. But the fact that it's race. I'd feel like sh*t if someone I really liked didn't like me because I was black. Something like that actually recently happened to me. I liked this white guy at school but he wasn't into black women. He wasn't racist. He didn't think white women were better. Black women just weren't his thing. And that kind of hurt. I wish I could change my perception of men but I just can't. White men will always be hot to me and black men will never be.

Oh and POMJ: I like white men because they play the part well in my fantasies. The rough yet gentle rapist neighbor (or boss or co-worker or classmate and so on) who takes the innocent little black girl who's cute but pretty asexual...until he gets to her.

[IAmCanadian]

Great post. I've been a fan of racial fetishism for many years, and this touches on many topics I'm interested in.

I'll echo what others have been saying and put forth the idea that you shouldn't feel guilty- I myself have a preference for Japanese, Middle-Eastern, or African-American women. Basically any non-European culture. It isn't at the level of exclusivity that you maintain (I am still attracted to all sorts of American and European women!) but it's there nonetheless.

- FS