Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52 View Post
So those who commit to love... and stop loving...
Those who commit to honor... and stop honoring...
Those who commit to cherish... and stop cherishing...

That's all okay. And the person who sees all the other vows broken, who may have children to consider, who may not be financially ready to leave, who may even be abused... he or she is a selfish dog for looking for companionship?

Sorry but YOU, are empty of compassion.
So, according to what you say, it would have been perfectly okay for me to "find companionship" while still married to my ex-husband???
Stop loving him? Oh hell yeah, when his bipolar ass went off his meds and he stopped going to therapy and started escalating his behaviors, I definately stopped loving him.
Stop honoring him??? After he had told me that his father molested him as a child and his father wasn't to be around our child... to go off his meds and decide that it was ok for his father to be around her - what was there to honor in a man that would do that to his child????
Stop cherishing him?? There were a myriad of reasons to stop cherishing him.

So the way I should have taken care of myself in that situation would have been to hunt up some "companionship" on the side? Why? To make myself as bad as him, but in a different way?

Did I have children to consider? Yes, I had two. After having lost that much faith in the idiot I had married I should have reduced myself by being unfaithful but remaining married??? Not financially ready to leave? Oh believe me, I was in NO way financially ready to leave. Abused? Oh good heavens was I ever verbally abused- he only physically abused me once and believe me I made it abundantly clear by giving him a concussion that that wasn't going continue... so when he was so frustrated at not being able to hit me he turned to our daughter and dragged her down the hall by her ankle so her shirt rode up and she got rug burn on her back- the scar from which took YEARS to fade. But I should have stayed and gotten myself a fuckbuddy????

I seriously would have been justified in having an affair???? Like hell.

What I did was the right thing- the ONLY acceptable thing to do in a situation like that. I kicked his ass to the curb. I sent him home to his mommy and daddy.

THEN and ONLY then did I seek out and find companionship.

When I found that companionship, I was clear up front with each and every contact I made that I had NOOOOO intention of forming a monogamous relationship, that "dating" and "playing" were as far as it was going to go.

Damn that freak Ragoczy for getting under my skin and making me need to be monogamous with him. Damn him again for wanting to marry me. I wanted to NEVER be married again but faced with the choice of being married to him or ruining what we had -I chose marriage (and a collar) with all it's accoutrements INCLUDING fidelity.

Now, if his marvelous self were to change from the amazing, wonderful, caring, beloved, controlling, micro-managing, Domly person that he is into an abusive jerk or an unfaithful bastard then you damn well better believe I won't be out there finding a "companion" to comfort myself. I'll be kicking his ass to the curb- FIRST.

I'm with Bambina- someone that breaks the pact of fidelity without their partners knowledge and consent is lower than lobster shit.

*snuggling back up to Ragoczy's knees and going back to being his happy subby*

-kitten