As far as I'm concerned, Bambino just gave a world-class answer. It's going to be hard to top it (pun me no puns). Seriously, her answer really is good and probably ought to go in the glossary. I haven't checked to see what it says about this subject. I do think there is a way for Bambino to add it in the A-Z forum and I am suggesting she do so. To me, there is also a silent "topping from the bottom" that is a form of "bratting". It's what we do when we want/need/desire something else but yet we don't want to verbalize it. Deep in our psyche is the belief that if we say it out loud, it will "ruin" the mood or cool the action or de-intensify the scene. We want our partner to read our mind and just know to do something else.....or do it different. This one can be really dangerous to a relationship because if said partner fails, we usually respond with bitchiness, crankiness, and 24 hr-a-day pms. That partner, being human, usually lessens his/her dominant role in order to get back into our good graces. At that point, we have "topped them from the bottom" and usually lose a degree of respect for them. God, why am I trying to answer this. We are dealing with deep, deep psycho-sexual, psycho-babble stuff here. ROTFLMFAO at myself. I promise you this. When you do "top someone from the bottom"------you'll know it---even if they don't.

Dixie