I am used to having to be in control. I am very good at it.

So I am trying to get my mind wrapped around the concept of obedience...and its correlation to submission.

Because I have no idea how to put this into words, I will try with an example:

I like the idea of "him" taking control. I like to be pleasing. For instance, he likes to control what I wear...now that is not a limit of mine and I obviously want to please him. But what if he has a lousy sense of fashion? Its fine for when we are alone, but what about going in public...what if he wants me to dress in a slutty fashion, think Cavalli and I am more of a Dior kind of girl, lol.

(In a situation where limits are essentially agreed upon, and parties are compatible) how do you obey, if its something you don't like (if its not your style)?