Letting Go...

[shayna{L_D}]

im very timid to write anything on this subject but i feel i should at least say something.

personally to me i think in ANY relationship that you have it should just be you and yours. I am a very jealous person and wouldnt want my Dom playing with anyone else, weather it be spanking/flogging/caning or sex, in the end its all the same thing in my eyes, just like in a vanilla setting kissing is cheating for me, period. Flogging/caning/spanking and no sex would still be cheating. Which to me, when you cheat you crossed the line and there is no turning back. I agree with Icey when she said that doubts will creeep into the mind of which ever one didn't play. Insecurities, for me, would be just as Icey said, thinking he finds me boring, or has he done this behind my back, or does he like that other person more, or did he enjoy it more then them verse me, is he thinking about her while hes with me...the list can go on.

To me no matter how much you discuss with with your Dom/sub there will almost always be problems down the line when you have an open relationship, well to me anyways. I take my hat off to people that have an open relationship and can actually make it work, for me it would be to much to handle and jealousy would take over and id end up leaving the situation.

J-Go i know this is not helping you much, you wanted to hear from people that were into swinging/poly/sharing, just i just felt like i needed to say something.

Good luck in finding your answers