Wow, just....wow. You're not a 'real' Dominant if you care for your sub/pet/slave/whatever-you-want-to-call-them. Well, if that's in the rule book, count me out. I find that aftercare is a large part of what I do, especially after a draining scene. I take care of my submissive because that is what I enjoy. Does this make me less of a Dominant? My answer to this is a resounding NO. Tonight, for example, I mixed up some oil extracts and used it to massage her face. Why? Because she's going through a lot with family issues and while I could have done countless other things, sometimes it means the world to her when I make up an excuse to touch her. It soothes and calms her better than any medication I've seen. Sorry if I'm rambling, but I just felt an example would help pound home the point that caring for your submissive isn't just nice, it's (IMHO) the right thing to do.