Question about romance

[Hime]

I often hesitate to revert to my old USMC language but I have the feeling this calls for it. What goddamn manual did these "rules" come out of and who is the goddamn author?
Shit! When did we come under the BDSM General Orders? "Sir, my first BDSM order is to take charge of this sub and all government subs in view". I don't think so. You have a good sub, treat her like a queen. The lady I'm talking to now,if we ever do get together,she will never have any doubt that she is loved and adored.

Hahahaha you sound like my Marine husband. Semper fi.

Also, wtf, aftercare is being bad dom? I think your Master friend is living in bizarro world.

[IAmCanadian]

A sub is like a priceless work of art that was painted just for me. A piece of my property esteemed in my heart beyond any other I might possess. Any care this property requires to maintain, I will give. That doesn't make me a bad Dom. I wouldn't leave a needful sub in the aftermath of a session any more than a museum curator would leave the Venus de Milo out in the rain.

The exception to this is when abandonment might be part of the kink. The feeling of being left abruptly in the wake of an encounter might stir up erotic feelings of humiliation and degradation in the sub- the idea that she was used and thrown aside like a condom. If this is part of the game, aftercare is no longer a need- in fact, it's contrary to one.

- FS