Its difficult - for starters, out there in the real world how do you figure who is a dominant? So how do you know its the dominance that you're attracted to unless its just the role he happens to play that gives you submissive tingles?

The one man I ever really wanted to be my Dom - I fell in love with him relatively separate from the dominant thing so I really have no idea. The question I ask myself more often is why I feel attracted to dominant men in the first place and don't scoff and run the other way .