Like Dr_BuzzCsar > have been in the lifestyle for many years ... also 62. I Met a Gentleman from England back in the 70's ... He was the person that spotted My Dominant characteristics ... I just thought I was "sick" ... not alone in that I know.
At any rate, He became My friend, My Mentor and My teacher. He provide a great deal of literature and was open in replying to every question I ever asked. Taught Me how to make many of the things we now can go out a buy ( no stores stocked BDSM
material in those days). He also made Me read The Joy of Sex and an anatony book ... learn the female anattony ... so I would understand the areas that can be "enjoyed" and how to enjoy them more fully, and what areas to be "careful" about during "play.
Also was most helpful in helping Me develop skills in identification of submissives. And, since He had brought two slaves with Him from the UK, allowed Me to develop skills through the use of His girls, under His supervision.
Any way, that is the short version.