Confusion is part of life. If we all knew what was happening and when we would get bored

My advice is to explore and play as much as you can. Read, interact, have fun and do what you enjoy. Try everything once and maybe twice but don't feel pressured to do something that you do not like just because someone tells you it is 'part of the scene'. Bondage is a part of BDSM but it is not all of BDSM nor is it essential to do it to be a member of the scene. Discuss likes, dislikes and limits with anyone you play with and you will be fine.

And don't be afraid to ask questions. We will answer them and you will not be seen any the less for asking them.

BTW, the best place to ask a question is one of the BDSM boards not the introduction board. There are some here who will tend to skip some or all of the intro threads but will read all the BDSM threads. Therefore these are the best place to get your question viewed and replied to.