Please take thier advice to heart.

We of course are not there with you, ultimately only you can make the call, we don't know you and your dom, but from what youve told us, i would say its time for a serious disscussion with him at the very least.

Having been in an abusive situation before myself, my knee jerk reaction is to react somewhat more strongly to the situation as described( better safe than sorry!!), it sets of more than one "alarm bell" in my head from reading it.

i will pray for your saftey and happiness
hugs and kissess
denuseri