Quote Originally Posted by blythespirit View Post
I am most probably the one that "hijacked" J-Go's thread a "ticky," and for that I apologize.

Darn it, I wanted credit for that hijack. My post was before yours.

Yes I am a feminist, in terms of equal rights. No I am not a militant feminist wanting to get rid of all men and treating women as superior. Anyone who thinks women have achieved equal rights has not looked at labor statistics that clearly show the women with the same degree of education and experience, still make less than men.

In most of the two parent families that I know of, the woman is still the primary care giver for the children and the one expected to take time off for sick children etc. Cooking and household chores seem rarely to divided equitably either. I am not saying to be equal that each person should do half of each type of chore. We all have individual preferences and talents. What I oppose is a division of labor where a woman must do a double shift. First putting in an 8 hour day for wages, then coming home and putting in an 8 hour day there. The studies I've seen show that men put in many fewer hours at home than women do.

Now maybe this is all just part of me showing my age. Maybe the younger generation does have a more equitable arrangement. I might be like the people who said Obama isn't black enough because he didn't go through the civil rights era and isn't still carrying the frustrations of being part of an underclass. Yet, I would argue, that like minorities, women still have not gained full equality. Why else would the media have talked about Hilary Clinton putting cracks in the glass ceiling?

As far as it influences my life, well it did take me a couple of decades or so to realize that being feminine did not contradict being a feminist. Now I would argue just the opposite. Embracing our femininity and the differences between men and women and valuing those differences, should be the focus of today's feminism. As far as how it effects my BDSM life, well feminism is about having equal opportunities and choices and that means I can choose to be a sub or a Dom or neither or both.