BDSM And Feminism: Intertwined? How So?

[damyanti]

As for how it plays into my bdsm thing...other than I have a right to make this choice for myself...it doesnt.

I submit because I am submissive, but I am not submissive because I am a woman.

[AdrianaAurora]

I already answered this before in another thread, some time ago, to me feminism isnt about belittling men, but empowering women.

My husband cooks and canes my ass. I make bed and vacume and gladly place myself over His knee. We are a modern household, lol.

I am pretty happy with Him and His attitude. And I think He is a pretty good example of how a modern man should be - a delightful blend of New Age sensitivity and Old World manners. When it comes to work He is "an equal opportunity bastard", lol, but in everything else He treats women as equal and as ladies. He does have a machismo attitude when it comes to women who make the first move, He absolutely cant stand it, (but I am not exactly going to complain about that, lol).

I am a feminist and proud of it.

But I notice that both those who call themselves Feminists and those who claim that they arent one, want the same thing only under different label!

Another interesting off shoot to this thread could be - why are women so mean to women?

I work in an old boys club profession, and the stories I could tell you about sexist remarks and put downs I had to and still do tolerate, and things I have seen when travelling abroad, would make your blood boil.

Ultimately, however, it comes down to ones ability to do the job and men get used to it, to me. But women - it doesnt matter how nice, smart and qualified you are - if you are percieved as younger and prettier, watch your back!
All the horror stories I have about working with men are child play compared to those I have of working with single, middle age women (as a superior, equal or an employe). *shudder*

[leo9]

My husband cooks and canes my ass. I make bed and vacume and gladly place myself over His knee. We are a modern household, lol.

Yep, that's how it was for me and my wife. I cooked, kept house and whipped her in chains. She went out to work and ordered men around, came home and knelt for punishment. Balanced roles...