Quote Originally Posted by denuseri View Post


If I am a feminist then you are a kajira!

And, darling, you may not wish to call yourself one, but you are a kajira. In fact, you are my kajira girl icon in waiting. (and I considered you that before this thread. (winks)

( I actually quite like that, thanks)


Fine, let me ask you this - what does it mean to be a feminist? Who is a feminist?


Because to me being a feminist means that I am respected as a human being, that my opinions are not rejected just because I am a woman, or my "place" predetermined just by my gender. Because yes, if you say that you are not a feminist, then what are you? To me it means that you have a mold, into which women should fit.

But to me thats just it, you cant put all women down into a mold as if they all want the same thing. Just as all women don't want to be touched the same way, not all women want their doors held. Just because most women choose so called female professions, why does that mean that the one who wants to be a truck driver has to go through hell and all the put downs, and even antagonism from other women because she is not "a lady"?

To me feminism is about freedom and choice, many choices - a freedom to be a kajira, a stay at home mum, a carpenter, not to marry, and a right to do with your body as you want - so when someone says "I am not a feminist," what I hear is, "Only my choice is right, and all the others who don't fall into that mold, should be forcefully brought into the flock or eliminated". Because thats what it comes down to, so I have an equal distaste for those "militant" feminists and those who puff their chest and say that they aren't - because to me its a sign of ultimate disrespect and ungratefulness to all those women who came before them (throughout history) and fought to break the mold.



And off topic, you cant, in every, argument accuse someone of sophism. I wont even go into the argument about what Sophism really was or is. But in the derogatory sense that you are so fond of using, the prime example of it is, accusing another of sophistry as a persuasion technique.