I'm finding this thread rather reassuring. Sure, we all get extra excited in our liaisons - why we choose to BDSM over vanilla - but what I'm seeing from the replies so far is something obvious, I suppose, but true. Just as all BDSM relationships are uniquely forged between the partners involved, women's individual sexual physiology doesn't necessarily transform from zero to hero just because they're living their kink. Of course, it can do with a bit of practice and know how, but I do find it reassuring to read about real-life sexual experiences that actually sound realistic and not screamingly orgasmic every time. But then sex is not all about sex anyway, is it? Sexual excitement comes from many stimulants and the best are mental which of course is what BDSM excels at.

Anyway, anyone care to share their sure-fire aids to self-orgasm?

Well-written stories on here always put me in the mood.
I cannot do without my nipple clamps.
An anal plug if I want to treat myself.
Imagining myself splayed for my Master and him watching and directing me.
Can you spoil it for fingers with too much vibrating?