Aesop just found this thread and think it is great. When joining this forum, maybe we all should be directed to it especially, if like me, we claim to be new to all this BDSM stuff.
I did take note of the following, the word Paraphilia was there but the definition which was missing. Maybe it was on purpose. If so, just delete this post.
My search came up with this definition.
Paraphilia -
Any of a group of psychosexual disorders characterized by sexual fantasies, feelings, or activities involving a nonhuman object, a nonconsenting partner such as a child, or pain or humiliation of oneself or one's partner. Also called sexual deviation.