Hard limit questionaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners

[hopperboo]

Here we go...again.

I've been meaning to update this. Some of my views have changed on these topics after reading different posts and more about the topics so I thought I'd re-post. Quite a few things I had marked as “hard limits” I have changed my opinion on.

I should have waited a while and read more before I answered the questionnaire in the first place.

I'm sure they'll change again once I get to actually doing the list. Hah.



Anything with an "*" by it just means I'd be reluctant (or wouldn’t) do it because I've heard of health/danger issues.



Abrasion: No, 0 I still don't really get what this is in a BDSM context so I am not changing my answer.

Age play: No, 2

Anal sex: No, 5

Anal plugs (small): No, 3

*Anal plugs (large): No, 0

Anal plug (public, under clothes): No, 3

Animal roles: No, 1

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No, 0

*Asphyxiation: No, No

Auctioned for charity: No, No

Bathroom use control: No, 2

Bestiality: No, No

Beating (soft): No, 3

Beating (hard): No, 1

Blindfolds: No, 4

Being serviced (sexual): No, 4 I wouldn’t want it a “submissive” type of service...if that makes any sense at all.

Being bitten: No, 4

Breast/chest bondage: No, 2

*Breath control: No, 2 It would depend on the man.... If he was a serial killer it would automatically drop to a hard limit. Heh.

Branding: No, No

Boot worship: No, 1

Bondage (light): No, 4

Bondage (heavy): No, 2

*Bondage (multi-day): No, No

Bondage (public, under clothing): No, 3

Bondage and Sex: No, 4

Breast whipping: No, 2

*Brown showers (scat): No, No

Cages (locked inside of): No, 2

Caning: No, 2

*Catheterization: No, No

Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No, No I’m afraid of the dark.

Chastity belts: No, 1

Chauffeuring: No, 1

*Choking: No, 2 Same as the breath play kind of stuff?

Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 3

Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes, 3

Clothespins body: No, 2

Cock worship: No, 4

Collars (worn in private): No, 2

Collars (worn in public): No, 2

Competitions (with other Subs): No, No

Corsets (wearing): No, 3

Cuffs: No, 3

Cuffs (metal): No, 3

*Cutting: No, No

*Dilation: No, No Extreme dilation I would think wouldn’t be healthy for one’s body.

Double penetration: Yes, 4

Electricity: No, 3

Enemas: No, 0

Enforced chastity: Yes, No...lmbo.

Examinations (physical): No, 3

Exercise (forced/required): No, 3 (Um, just to clarify, I said 'no' as in I haven't been 'forced' or 'required' by another person).

Exhibitionism (friends): No, 0

Exhibitionism (strangers): No, 3

Eye contact restrictions: No, 0

Face slapping: No, ? It would depend on the man, and I can’t honestly say how I’d feel about it until it happened. Anywhere from a 2-5

Fantasy abandonment: No, No

Fantasy rape: No, 5

Fantasy forced deep throat: No, 4

Fantasy forced cunt licking: No, No

Fantasy forced rape anal: No, 4

Fantasy gang-rape: No, No

*Fisting (anal): No, No

Fisting (vaginal): No, 0

Flogging: No, 2

Following hand signals: No, 1 Ahhh. I don’t really see the point.

Following orders: No, 4

Foot worship: No, 2

Forced dressing: No, 2/3

Forced homosexuality: No, No

Forced masturbation: No, 4

Forced nudity (private): No, 4

Forced nudity (around others): No, 0

Forced servitude: No, No

Full head hoods: No, 2-4

Gags (cloth): No, 3

Gags (penis shaped): No, 0

Gags (rubber): No, 0

*Gags (tape): No, No I’ve heard duct tape is not good for one’s skin.

Gates of Hell: I still have no idea what this is....

Genital sex: No, 5

Given away to another Dom (temp): No, No

Given away to another Domme (temp): No, No

Given away to another Dom (perm): No, No

Given away to another Domme (perm): No, No

Golden showers: No, 2

Greetings rituals: No, 0

Hairbrush spankings: No, 4

Hair pulling: No, 4

Hand jobs (giving): No, 4

Hand jobs (receiving): No, 4

Harems (serving w/other subs): No, No

Harnessing (leather): No, 0

Harnessing (rope): No, 0

Having food chosen for you: No, 1-2

Having clothing chosen for you: No, 2-3

Head (giving cunnilingus): No, No

Head (giving fellatio): No, 5

Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): No, 5

Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A

High heel worship: No, No

Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No, 0

Hot oils (on genitals): No, 2

Hot waxing: No, 3

Housework (doing): No, 3 I like cleaning!

Human puppy dog: No, 0

Humiliation (private): No, 4/5

Humiliation (public): No, 4/5

Hypnotism: No, No I personally don't believe in it.

Ice cubes: Yes, 4

Infantilism: No, No

Initiation rites: No, No

*Injections: No, No

Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No, 1

Interrogations: No, 3 (And if you have a sexy accent it pops up to a 4, lol).

Kidnapping: No, 4/5 Safely of course....

Kneeling: No, 3

Leather clothing: No, 0

Restraints chains: No, 4

Restraints leather: No, 4

Restraints rope: No, 4

Lectures for misbehavior: No, 2

Licking (non-sexual): No, 2

Manacles & Irons: No, 2

Manicures (giving): No, 4 (Yay! I'll do pedicures too!)

Massage (giving): No, 4

Massage (receiving): No, 4

Medical scenes: No, 3

Modeling for erotic photos: No, 3

Modeling for erotic videos: No, 2

Mouth bits: No, 0

Mummification: No, No

Nipple clamps: No, 3

Nipple cloths pins: Yes, 3

Nipple weights: No, 0

*Oral/anal play (rimming): No, No

Over-the-knee spanking: No, 5

Orgasm denial: No, 4

Orgasm control: No, 4/5

Outdoor scenes: No, 3

Outdoor sex: No, 4

Phone sex (serving Dom): No, 3

Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No, 0

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No, No

Piercing (permanent): No, No

Prison scenes: No, 1

Pony slave: No, No

Public exposure: No, 4 Only if it was ‘private-public.’

Public tasks: No, 2

Pussy whipping: No, 2

Pussy worship: No, 5 If I am receiving...and I hope it wouldn’t feel like the man was submissive to me....

Riding crops: No, 2

Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No, 2 ...still not sure what this is either...hah.

Rituals: No, No

Religious scenes: No, No

Restrictive rules on behavior: No, 3

Rubber/latex clothing: No, 0

Rope body harness: No, 0

Saran wrapping: No, 0 I don't get the appeal.

Scratching – getting: No, 2-4

Scratching – giving: No, 3

Sensory deprivation: No, 4/5

Serving: No, 3

Serving as art: No, No

Serving as ashtray: No, No

Serving as furniture: No, 0

Serving as a maid: No, 1

Serving as toilet: No, No

Serving as waitress/waiter: No, 1

Serving orally (sexual): No, 4

Serving other Doms (supervised): No, 0 It would depend on the context of ‘serving.’

Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No, No

Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 3

Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, No (LOL, this was a funny one for me to fill out).

Shaving (body hair): Yes, 4

Shaving (head hair): No, No

Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4

Sleep deprivation: No, No NO ONE messes with my sleep!

Sleep-sacks: No, No I don’t get the appeal.

Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 3

Slutty clothing (public): No, 3

Spanking in private: No, 5

Spanking in public: No, 0

Spanking in bdsm parties: No, 0

Spanking pleasure: No, 5

Spandex clothing: lmbo

Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 1

Speculum (Anal): No, 2

Speculum (vaginal): No, 3

Spreader bars: No, 2

Standing in corner: No, 1

Stocks (adjustable): No, No

Stocks (fixed): No, No

Straight jackets: No, No

Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No, No

Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No, No

Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No, No

Strapping (full body beating): No, 1

Suspension (upright): No, 0

Suspension (inverted): No, 0

Suspension (horizontal): No, 0

Supplying new partners for Dom: No, No

Swallowing semen: No, 4

Swallowing urine: No, No

Swapping (with one other couple): No, 0 I guess it would depend on far it would be taken...I'd only do it if it was something he (my partner) couldn't live without.

Swinging (multiple couples): No, No

Tattooing: No, No

Teasing: No, 4

Tickling: No, 4

Triple penetration: No, 4

Triple penetration by 3 males: No, 0

Uniforms: No, 3

Including others: No, 0

Vaginal dildo: Yes, 4

Verbal humiliation: No, 4

Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 4

Voyeurism (watching others): No, 3/4

Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No, No Only a hard limit for the fact that I don’t want to share.

Video (watching others): Yes, 4

Video (recordings of you): No, 3

Water torture: No, 0 I suppose. Still not really sure on this whole deal.

Wearing symbolic jewelry: No, 1

Whipping: No, 1

Wooden paddles: No, 3

Wrestling: No, 5

[MissConfused]

What thorough lists!
I'm sorry but I won't post my answers here. It would take two hours but I am going to type up the lists and TRY to discuss them with my husband.
Maybe if he has an idea exactly what I want I may change his mind about BDSM.

[hopperboo]

What thorough lists!
I'm sorry but I won't post my answers here. It would take two hours but I am going to type up the lists and TRY to discuss them with my husband.
Maybe if he has an idea exactly what I want I may change his mind about BDSM.

Nods. It does seem to take fooooooooooooorever.

Good thing I was bored this morning.



p.s. good luck!

[icey]

Nods. It does seem to take fooooooooooooorever.

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tell me about it, it took me god knows how long to post it and now its disappeared lol it's been replaced with a smiley face!