Here we go...again.
I've been meaning to update this. Some of my views have changed on these topics after reading different posts and more about the topics so I thought I'd re-post. Quite a few things I had marked as “hard limits” I have changed my opinion on.
I should have waited a while and read more before I answered the questionnaire in the first place.
I'm sure they'll change again once I get to actually doing the list. Hah.
Anything with an "*" by it just means I'd be reluctant (or wouldn’t) do it because I've heard of health/danger issues.
Abrasion: No, 0 I still don't really get what this is in a BDSM context so I am not changing my answer.
Age play: No, 2
Anal sex: No, 5
Anal plugs (small): No, 3
*Anal plugs (large): No, 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): No, 3
Animal roles: No, 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No, 0
*Asphyxiation: No, No
Auctioned for charity: No, No
Bathroom use control: No, 2
Bestiality: No, No
Beating (soft): No, 3
Beating (hard): No, 1
Blindfolds: No, 4
Being serviced (sexual): No, 4 I wouldn’t want it a “submissive” type of service...if that makes any sense at all.
Being bitten: No, 4
Breast/chest bondage: No, 2
*Breath control: No, 2 It would depend on the man.... If he was a serial killer it would automatically drop to a hard limit. Heh.
Branding: No, No
Boot worship: No, 1
Bondage (light): No, 4
Bondage (heavy): No, 2
*Bondage (multi-day): No, No
Bondage (public, under clothing): No, 3
Bondage and Sex: No, 4
Breast whipping: No, 2
*Brown showers (scat): No, No
Cages (locked inside of): No, 2
Caning: No, 2
*Catheterization: No, No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No, No I’m afraid of the dark.
Chastity belts: No, 1
Chauffeuring: No, 1
*Choking: No, 2 Same as the breath play kind of stuff?
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes, 3
Clothespins body: No, 2
Cock worship: No, 4
Collars (worn in private): No, 2
Collars (worn in public): No, 2
Competitions (with other Subs): No, No
Corsets (wearing): No, 3
Cuffs: No, 3
Cuffs (metal): No, 3
*Cutting: No, No
*Dilation: No, No Extreme dilation I would think wouldn’t be healthy for one’s body.
Double penetration: Yes, 4
Electricity: No, 3
Enemas: No, 0
Enforced chastity: Yes, No...lmbo.
Examinations (physical): No, 3
Exercise (forced/required): No, 3 (Um, just to clarify, I said 'no' as in I haven't been 'forced' or 'required' by another person).
Exhibitionism (friends): No, 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): No, 3
Eye contact restrictions: No, 0
Face slapping: No, ? It would depend on the man, and I can’t honestly say how I’d feel about it until it happened. Anywhere from a 2-5
Fantasy abandonment: No, No
Fantasy rape: No, 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: No, 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No, No
Fantasy forced rape anal: No, 4
Fantasy gang-rape: No, No
*Fisting (anal): No, No
Fisting (vaginal): No, 0
Flogging: No, 2
Following hand signals: No, 1 Ahhh. I don’t really see the point.
Following orders: No, 4
Foot worship: No, 2
Forced dressing: No, 2/3
Forced homosexuality: No, No
Forced masturbation: No, 4
Forced nudity (private): No, 4
Forced nudity (around others): No, 0
Forced servitude: No, No
Full head hoods: No, 2-4
Gags (cloth): No, 3
Gags (penis shaped): No, 0
Gags (rubber): No, 0
*Gags (tape): No, No I’ve heard duct tape is not good for one’s skin.
Gates of Hell: I still have no idea what this is....
Genital sex: No, 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No, No
Given away to another Domme (temp): No, No
Given away to another Dom (perm): No, No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No, No
Golden showers: No, 2
Greetings rituals: No, 0
Hairbrush spankings: No, 4
Hair pulling: No, 4
Hand jobs (giving): No, 4
Hand jobs (receiving): No, 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): No, No
Harnessing (leather): No, 0
Harnessing (rope): No, 0
Having food chosen for you: No, 1-2
Having clothing chosen for you: No, 2-3
Head (giving cunnilingus): No, No
Head (giving fellatio): No, 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): No, 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: No, No
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No, 0
Hot oils (on genitals): No, 2
Hot waxing: No, 3
Housework (doing): No, 3 I like cleaning!
Human puppy dog: No, 0
Humiliation (private): No, 4/5
Humiliation (public): No, 4/5
Hypnotism: No, No I personally don't believe in it.
Ice cubes: Yes, 4
Infantilism: No, No
Initiation rites: No, No
*Injections: No, No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No, 1
Interrogations: No, 3 (And if you have a sexy accent it pops up to a 4, lol).
Kidnapping: No, 4/5 Safely of course....
Kneeling: No, 3
Leather clothing: No, 0
Restraints chains: No, 4
Restraints leather: No, 4
Restraints rope: No, 4
Lectures for misbehavior: No, 2
Licking (non-sexual): No, 2
Manacles & Irons: No, 2
Manicures (giving): No, 4 (Yay! I'll do pedicures too!)
Massage (giving): No, 4
Massage (receiving): No, 4
Medical scenes: No, 3
Modeling for erotic photos: No, 3
Modeling for erotic videos: No, 2
Mouth bits: No, 0
Mummification: No, No
Nipple clamps: No, 3
Nipple cloths pins: Yes, 3
Nipple weights: No, 0
*Oral/anal play (rimming): No, No
Over-the-knee spanking: No, 5
Orgasm denial: No, 4
Orgasm control: No, 4/5
Outdoor scenes: No, 3
Outdoor sex: No, 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): No, 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No, 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No, No
Piercing (permanent): No, No
Prison scenes: No, 1
Pony slave: No, No
Public exposure: No, 4 Only if it was ‘private-public.’
Public tasks: No, 2
Pussy whipping: No, 2
Pussy worship: No, 5 If I am receiving...and I hope it wouldn’t feel like the man was submissive to me....
Riding crops: No, 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No, 2 ...still not sure what this is either...hah.
Rituals: No, No
Religious scenes: No, No
Restrictive rules on behavior: No, 3
Rubber/latex clothing: No, 0
Rope body harness: No, 0
Saran wrapping: No, 0 I don't get the appeal.
Scratching – getting: No, 2-4
Scratching – giving: No, 3
Sensory deprivation: No, 4/5
Serving: No, 3
Serving as art: No, No
Serving as ashtray: No, No
Serving as furniture: No, 0
Serving as a maid: No, 1
Serving as toilet: No, No
Serving as waitress/waiter: No, 1
Serving orally (sexual): No, 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No, 0 It would depend on the context of ‘serving.’
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No, No
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, No (LOL, this was a funny one for me to fill out).
Shaving (body hair): Yes, 4
Shaving (head hair): No, No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4
Sleep deprivation: No, No NO ONE messes with my sleep!
Sleep-sacks: No, No I don’t get the appeal.
Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 3
Slutty clothing (public): No, 3
Spanking in private: No, 5
Spanking in public: No, 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: No, 0
Spanking pleasure: No, 5
Spandex clothing: lmbo
Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 1
Speculum (Anal): No, 2
Speculum (vaginal): No, 3
Spreader bars: No, 2
Standing in corner: No, 1
Stocks (adjustable): No, No
Stocks (fixed): No, No
Straight jackets: No, No
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No, No
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No, No
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No, No
Strapping (full body beating): No, 1
Suspension (upright): No, 0
Suspension (inverted): No, 0
Suspension (horizontal): No, 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: No, No
Swallowing semen: No, 4
Swallowing urine: No, No
Swapping (with one other couple): No, 0 I guess it would depend on far it would be taken...I'd only do it if it was something he (my partner) couldn't live without.
Swinging (multiple couples): No, No
Tattooing: No, No
Teasing: No, 4
Tickling: No, 4
Triple penetration: No, 4
Triple penetration by 3 males: No, 0
Uniforms: No, 3
Including others: No, 0
Vaginal dildo: Yes, 4
Verbal humiliation: No, 4
Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 4
Voyeurism (watching others): No, 3/4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No, No Only a hard limit for the fact that I don’t want to share.
Video (watching others): Yes, 4
Video (recordings of you): No, 3
Water torture: No, 0 I suppose. Still not really sure on this whole deal.
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No, 1
Whipping: No, 1
Wooden paddles: No, 3
Wrestling: No, 5