bambina my husband has no interest in BDSM so I am forced to perform self bondage
YES I masturbate and cum everytime

The one time he did something "kinky" he was drunk and he agreed to spank me
The only rule was that he keep spanking me until I told him to stop
I didn't stop him until I was crying like a little child
When he stopped spanking me he mounted me from behind
I had the best orgasm of my life as soon as he entered me
I had one more before he finally came
Afterwards I layed in bed for almost an hour much too exhausted to go shower

So YES if you find the proper scenario BDSM will give you screaming orgasms
What works for me probably won't work for you
Find your own fetish and enjoy it without restraint