welcome to the great american melting pot where we are a culture within many cultures, from the asian shibari masters, to the revered story of "O" from pauline reage. i believe i spelled that right, hope i did, would hate to sound foolish.

in anycase. bdsm for me other than the combined 3 sides within the circle of unity, bondage & disipline, dominance & submission, and sadism & masochism. is an incredible exercise in balance and control of oneself as well. since to take on the responsibilty of others we first must balance that control within ourselves.

bondage & disipline- restraint of our thoughts and actions
dominance & submission - proper control and submission to our beliefs
sadism & masochism - the pain we share and the pain we feel within ourselves

i agree with "I" that the disclaimer be inserted within our differences. for it is a culture that unifies us. binds us together. and brings us to an enlightenment of ourselves,

i serve others in hopes of being served. to give and then partake of life. i try to live by example by the teachings of God within the Bible and am constantly at odds as i stuggle against the ropes of my own beliefs and desires. most christians may consider just being within this website a sin. and i talk with God about that nightly. tell me this ins't a form of bdsm as it is a constant exercise in the 3 sided form within the circle of unity of this community of which i feel at home.

within this constant exercise i've come to realize how much i know and how much i do not know of myself. and how much more there is to learn in both. i live in the past that made me, the present of which i am, and the future of which i could be.

i am not as learned in the books or words of alot of lifestyle novelist. but it is to that level which i aspire to. for i believe that they have seen upon a partial truth that when the stories are woven together bring about a form that takes a life of it's own. the bible i haven't read all the way through. but in my readings i've learned the basic tenant of serving others, and in such i've gained much control. in the beliefs that nothing is impossible for me within the strength of my God. i'm am but just a puppet who has managed to pull the strings of others bringing them toward their possible potential.

i know this is wordy and long, and i humbly apologize in it's length but this is what bdsm is to me. thank you for this opportunity to explain how i feel.