Are people really super turned on my BDSM acts?

[DIXIE LASS]

But I was just wondering if people actually got super excited by BDSM or if it's just fun. If men and women can really cum just by being tied up...or if it's just a fun activity to do before or during sex.

I'm not talking about fetishes that directly stimulate sexual organs (like breasts, crotches, etc...). I'm talking about fetishes that are just fetishes and do not provide direct stimulation.

I'm fairly certain there needs to be direct genital stimulation for an orgasm to be reached, or at least that's my personal experience. I certainly get incredibly aroused through BDSM acts, and would say that they excite me and arouse me more than vanilla sex acts. I'm not about to get off by being blindfolded or spanked...but it would certainly help

I've seen some individuals who orgasmed from a variety of things other than direct genital stimulation. For instance, I've known both men and women who could reach orgasm from a caning.

The answer to this question is. No you do not have to have genital stimuli, trust me. They are just usually the easiest to stimulate. The better the stimulator, real or fake, human or prop, the easier to stimulate. No matter where the application.

"If you're not in my head, you're not in my erogenous zone."

This thread has really gotten confusing. I'm quoting my own quote. But, that's one of the things that does it for me: if my partner can get into my head just right, I'm a goner with thoughts alone. I can orgasm fast and hard with absolutely no physical stimulation. No toys, no vibes, no hands. Some men seem to be able to say just the right thing, most don't. Now, that's just proof, of a type, that your brain is your biggest sex organ. And my brain doesn't need a lot of conversation, either. A sentence or two, said the right way, and I'm approaching melt-down. I'll cook-off like live ammo from just the thought or threat of certain fetishes/activities.

Now, it does bother me (just a little bit--lol) that I've run off and left my partner. But when I try to focus entirely on their pleasure and get them to "lift-off" first, my mind gets so imaginative while I'm talking or writing to them that I effectively mind-fuck myself. So I'm back to the same old problem. So: Yes, people really can get super excited by just the thought of certain fetishes/activities. And No, direct genital stimulation is not strictly needed for orgasm. Nor is any other physical stimulation.

I'll close in allowing that this situation is probably not the norm and I couldn't go out and just duplicate it with anyone. You can have really good cyber sex and it still not reach this level of intensity and eroticism. I think you just haven't found what (or who) "yanks your chain" yet. Keep looking.

Dixie