You cannot make someone your slave, nor can you magically make them want you to be their owner or dominant partner. You should always be aware that you best course of action is a safe, sane and most importantly consensual one.

Compliance which has been enforced by using force is short lived, to achieve this goal you will have to think of your dominance as a seduction tool, (the enticement of a person to sexual intercourse, something that attracts or charms).
You should be able to attract and charm the person you wish to engage with in a Master/submissive relationship. Just likes bees are drawn to flowers and a drug addict needs the daily fix, you will need to develop an understanding of the person you wish to lure into your dominance and you will need to understand what makes them come back. Think of it as a very simple economic experiment, which would sound something like this:
1. Find a natural need or desire and satisfy it
2. Generate an artificial desire which is similar to the one you found
3. Let that artificial desire prosper and grow, building on it.

Theory is sometimes dry and not very helpful, so let us try to put my key principles to the test by illustrating them with a made up example.
Let us assume you have found out that your partner likes to receive some form of smacking to her ass while indulging in regular intercourse with you. You have just managed to find a natural desire, so why would you not go away and learn more about spanking. Armed with that knowledge you can then indulge with your partner, spank her properly and learn how she reacts to that stimulus. You might find out that she also reacts well to the spanking of her cunt or her inner thighs. That she reacts, in general, well to being slapped lightly.
Armed with that you are now in a position to create an artificial desire, by speaking to her, taunting her, allowing her to build a fantasy around your words, how you will spank her tits and spank her ass until it is red.
Once that is achieved you can build on the foundation you have laid out before you, you are free to expand on the same topic, provide variations thereof or even venture into enhancements. Spanking her, while tying her up might be such an enhancement,

Dominance and submission are not games, they are conscious choices many people on this planet make daily. It is impossible to create a long lasting relationship with you slave unless she is willing to give herself to you. You will be required to gain her trust and create an environment in which she can feel utterly safe.
My submissive had shown her willingness to be dominated and made that decision long before we actually met. Often it is a matter of farming the willing and then putting that willingness to good use. That is exactly where your training regime can help.

Training works best when you are expanding on natural desires. Take the things your slave loves already and expand on them. Whether that is cock sucking, ass fucking, spanking, being guided on a leash, being exposed in public, it does not matter. Pick a topic which your slave is comfortable with or at least willing to explorer further in. Expand that topic, exhaust it and push bit by bit to elaborate on the different nuances of play.
You will soon see that certain topics naturally lead to another one. Bare handed spanking might easily lead into some form of mild bondage, as your partner might be more than willing to let her hold her hands as she is on her belly, getting spanked. There is no “tree diagram” I could help you with unfortunately, as there are almost infinite ways on how to progress from one topic to the next.

As discussed above you best course of action is to ensure that you are building on topics the person you are engaging with is already slightly comfortable with. Sometimes their need, the quick gratification of lust can help you engrave that this desire is a good, a pleasing one. As there is a multitude of topics out there my best advise is that you seek expert knowledge in specific area as you touch on it.
Educate yourself by using workshops, also make sure that you understand what you are doing to your slave’s mind and her body. It is important that you develop a basic understanding of human anatomy.

You cannot make someone your slave. They choose to be your slave and they will most likely choose to be enslaved by you, because you understand and further their desires. Choosing to be your slave will also heavily depend on you being trusted, in some rare cases with their life (asphyxiation play), you being accepted as someone that will not judge them for desires most people in our society reject.
Try to achieve trust first, build on that trust, create a sense of absolute security, ensure you are being perceived as loving and not judgemental and then build on that.

Those rather mild forms of BDSM often revolve around rough sex, deep-throating and stretching of holes. My slave is different, more than any toy in the world my slave is my favourite toy. She is the ultimate in “toy-creation”, because she is ever changing, never “done” and will always develop “new features”. I can train her to be almost anything I want her to be. I can train her to speak differently, in a different language if that made me happy, as she is a human being, my imagination is barely limited. My slave knows that she is pleasing me and in pleasing me, she is making me happy. I know that my desires have been accepted and that I can turn my fantasies into reality anytime I choose to do so.

Use your eyes. Just as much as pictures can illustrate something that has been done, your eyes can illustrate very well what will happen. Humans are instinctively trained to pick up clues in someone’s behaviour, we also learn very quickly to judge mood and intention by looking into the eyes of someone. This might be a left-over from predator days. You will find that with many animals staring into the eyes of an opponent is perceived as an act of aggression.

Patience is the cure for all suffering. My slave knows that she sometimes frustrates me, just as I frustrate her. Frustration can stem from a lot of sources, most of the time it is lack of understanding why I expect her to act in a certain way. Education is an essential part of any BDSM relationship, you need to be able to share your doubts and fears so that a topic may be resolved. To be able to do so you need to feel comfortable.

Human beings are creatures of comfort. We like to feel at home in an environment we understand well and have gotten used to. It allows us to anticipate and understand well what is expected and thus makes us less prone to failure. Whenever someone tries to introduce change into an established environment you also introduce uncertainty. No one likes uncertainty and with the amount of personal emotion involved your slave likes uncertainty even less. When you introduce new rules, when you make changes you need to ensure that your slave feels safe prior to doing so.

Knowing that there is room for mistakes and especially the knowledge that these mistakes will be met with patience are an important tool to create the safety needed prior to introducing changes. When the likelihood to “fail”, as she tries something new, becomes suddenly close to zero, she is more willing to try. Whatever she is going to see as a result will be accepted as a valid attempt and it will reinforce that she can continue trying, getting better each time. We naturally make mistakes, making mistakes is a huge part of our learning process. There is nothing better than pride to motivate a slave into success. Pride can be fostered by first allowing her to not be perfect, to not succeed right away and this can be achieved by being considerate and patient in your responses. A well tempered and measured response will reinforce the security needed to push limits and to learn and embrace new sensations or techniques.

My patience might appear to be infinite at times, but even mine will run out sooner or later. You will need to make a conscious decision when it is enough. Once I feel that my slave understands what I am trying to achieve, once we have established that she is physically capable of doing so and once I can be sure that she feels there will be no harm coming to her from the introduced change my patience starts to thin. Once I feel a change has become a well established procedure my patience stops. My slave knows very well that I will never repeat myself for well established rules and she understands that there are consequences when she fails to satisfy well established procedures. She knows that there is no choice but to obey, and that the alternative to obedience is never a good choice.