thank you. I am not trying to subdue some random person, I have been dating my kitty for some time now, and we met in a scene bar. She wants to be dominated by me which is why i asked this question. I am having issues progressing down the road twords the goals i would like her to achieve. I just got finished talking to a mentor Dom on the phone and reading your very well written post.

My issues are i do not have good scene control yet, i have not established a way for her to voice her opionion in a scene while staying in the proper headspace, and i think im pushing her too far too fast. Im going to back down a little, and try to make her want to push herself farther because it makes me happy.

Thank you for the post, i read it twice to make sure i got eveything from it.

I also am at a disadvantage because my first mentor Dom is an extreme hardcore, so learning from him tends to push things a little out of perspective.