For a long time brazilians were my primary mode of hair removal... the first one is the worst, because you're nervous and you're expecting whole strips of skin to be yanked off, that's how bad you think it's going to hurt. But really, it doesn't hurt THAT badly. I'm not going to lie and say it's a cake walk, but um... i think we here on this board are fairly well equipped to handle it.
Make an appointment, show up a little bit early so you can relax and read a magazine. If you think it will relax you, get a pedicure first. take some advil about thirty minutes before you get there(trust me, it does help). don't sign on for one if you are about to get your period- your skin is more sensitive and the blood is closer to the surface (ouchie).
the woman will take you some place private and relaxing (hopefully). they might offer you some skimpy little paper thong thingy for decency. These are absolutely silly and just get in the way. Make no mistake, she will be seeing your hoo hoo: so this little modesty piece can be declined. If you want to make small talk, usually they will follow your lead. wax is applied in small strips; usually one-three on the sides, then the top, then the center. the center is the most painful. strips come off in one piece and then they usually press the wax back down quickly two or three times if there are little pieces or strands that can still be picked up and pull it up again quickly. depending on the facility they might do some quick clean up with tweezers.
then you get an anti-inflammatory oil or some sort of soothing cream, you wipe the tears from your eyes and thank them very much, get your pants, and waddle home uncomfortably to ice your parts (hm. that sounds familiar...) i'm exaggerating! its honestly not THAT much more painful then a leg wax. i mean, it's definitely more painful, but it's totally bareable and gets easier with repetition. after a few times, i didn't even flinch.