Is Submission a gift

[sadiej]

I agree. It is a gift. But not just one-way. I see my relationship with a Master as an exchange. I relinquish my control to him.. submit. He accepts that and offers his control of me. We exchange.

I relinquish control...he accepts it. I give him my trust and respect... he respects and trusts me. He is pleased with my submission... I am pleased with his control. Each one in the relationship must offer equally, an exchange.

My reponsibility in this is to obey. To continually grow in my desire to give him more and more control over me. His responsibility is to keep that control and hold it responsibly.

It is not just my Master "doing" things to me, or "taking" things from me. He cannot lead where I will not follow. It's like a complicated and beautiful dance. Both partners must perform their part to make it happen. But Master leads.

[FrozenGrapes]

I agree. It is a gift. But not just one-way. I see my relationship with a Master as an exchange. I relinquish my control to him.. submit. He accepts that and offers his control of me. We exchange.

I relinquish control...he accepts it. I give him my trust and respect... he respects and trusts me. He is pleased with my submission... I am pleased with his control. Each one in the relationship must offer equally, an exchange.

My reponsibility in this is to obey. To continually grow in my desire to give him more and more control over me. His responsibility is to keep that control and hold it responsibly.

It is not just my Master "doing" things to me, or "taking" things from me. He cannot lead where I will not follow. It's like a complicated and beautiful dance. Both partners must perform their part to make it happen. But Master leads.

WOW yeah i totally agree with Sadiej! very very well put.. I don't think i can expand on that anymore. Beautifully put!