Honesty

[Oak]

That's is one of the best Threads I've seen here.
It's very easy to be very honest or dishonest in a place like this. As for myself I' honest to a certain limit. I think that most are that, as we probably all have things in the past, that we don't want to talk about.
But it probably often would be much easier to lie, to get a better result. If I see a cute sub-girl who'd I'd like to know better, I probably would have more luck telling that I'm 26 instead of the double. I think that's one of the reasons for lying.
As long as you only "play" on the net and haven't promised that the other part is the one and only, meeting living happyli ever after. Many probably will "play" with more. Which is a non existing problem for some of us.

[damyanti]

[I] If I see a cute sub-girl who'd I'd like to know better, I probably would have more luck telling that I'm 26 instead of the double.[/I]

On the contrary. See lying gets you nowhere.

[Pearlgem]

Being on line is a whole new way to have a relationship in the modern world. On the one hand it can encourage much greater superficiality with each other but on the other hand it can hugely intensify how quickly and well you feel you know someone. It is never the same as real life though and I think a common mistake, and one I've made before, is to suppose that it is. You just can't know what it's like to be with the other person in the same room, react to them in the flesh, get a feel of how personally attractive they are to you from on line only and I do think sometimes we react to the intimacy on line and confuse it with the whole experience of knowing someone. I think sometimes we get cyber-carried-away without really meaning to.
Perhaps in the not too distant future, the nearly-real aspect of being on line will be well understood by all users, but until then, it's so easy to construct ourselves in this virtual world, without even seeing it as lying.
One thing I think is impossible to disguise on line is intelligence, a quality that always appeals to me. If you're not intelligent, there are no geek tricks that could make you appear so on line.

[cookiecat]

Ragoczy - it is amazing what people will say online. i go to another site where people are downright mean & that is virtually the only way you will be accepted is if you fall in to that same way of posting. why bother?

love2serve - what a lucky woman you are to have such an open relationship that your husband sees your playing online as a benefit rather than a threat. enjoy!!!

Mastrovenice - it's an interesting approach - trying on other personas as a way to see what the other side deals with. sort of like a Dom trying out His latest toy just to understand what His girl will be feeling? i don't think i could keep up a different persona for long, it seems too time consuming to remember the lies. but role-playing is certainly something else. there's another chat room i've been to a couple times (but don't go anymore) where it seems like it's just assumed you're there to construct the fantasy. user nicknames in the room are things like: sluttymom4utouse or daughterlooking4dad...

RickBulow - hi! we joined bdsmlibrary around the same time! nice to see you back.

damyanti - isn't it surprising when you find out someone hasn't been up front? it's such an awful feeling. and sometimes, most awful when i've realized i haven't been honest with myself.

Oak - i think your comment was meant for damyanti, howeer, i can only say that a Dominant's age is a big deal for me. when i see a 26 year old say he's really really experienced, i have to question that. i remember what i was like at 26 and what did we know?! experience, wisdom, patience are huge turn ons for an old submissive like me! (now, if you're looking for a 26 year old who can't see the benefit of interacting with an older man... well... i can see that side of the issue.)

Pearlgem - you are spot on about intelligence. you really can't fake that. or a sense of humor. i realize not everyone is into grammar & spelling. but in an online world where our written words are sending the message - bad grammar and mis-spelled words are difficult to get past. not a dealbreaker but a hindrance for sure. maybe it's true, too - that if your an asshat in real life, that will shine brightly through here online as well!?

[lucy]

If I see a cute sub-girl who'd I'd like to know better, I probably would have more luck telling that I'm 26 instead of the double. I think that's one of the reasons for lying.

That would depend on the sub's preferences, no? You wouldn't scare away me with saying you're 52. However, if you said you're 26 and act and communicate like you're 52, that would scare me.

What i like about talking to people here is that it doesn't matter if they're 26 or 52, big or small, green or red. And i usually don't ask for these things, exactly because it doesn't matter.
That being said, it's pretty easy to be honest online.
However, i would lie if necessary in order to not reveil any information that could help anyone to find me in real life. I've done that once accidentally and regretted it very much.

[shayna{L_D}]

That would depend on the sub's preferences, no? You wouldn't scare away me with saying you're 52. However, if you said you're 26 and act and communicate like you're 52, that would scare me.

I agree! It would scare me also, but this happenes much to often.