Body Size & Shape

[FatherTimejr]

okay...ah well to a point it used to be, for a long time I said self-confidence issues that ive been breaking through by working on it on my own. And while im trying to lose weight thats merely for purposes of health, I like being a large man and I think of myself as a fairly handsome man, I like myself. I take pride in the clothing I wear, taking care of my hair and hygiene so on and so forth.

But at the same note I also understand that not everyone is the same, and their are people like you missconfused -smiles- who see things like that, and I love it. But I also know there are many who don't, which is fine. And I understand that, just as i'm not attracted to everyone woman I see or speak with I dont expect everyone to feel the same about me.

But I do agree that in whether I find someone attractive or not I think, now that you mention it, would be a lot of how they present themselves, and how they take care of themselves and appearance so on and so forth. An overweight woman who dresses herself like a woman half her size, i'm sorry, but will never work well with me. But yeah.

[MissConfused]

okay...ah well to a point it used to be, for a long time I said self-confidence issues that ive been breaking through by working on it on my own. And while im trying to lose weight thats merely for purposes of health, I like being a large man and I think of myself as a fairly handsome man, I like myself. I take pride in the clothing I wear, taking care of my hair and hygiene so on and so forth.

But at the same note I also understand that not everyone is the same, and their are people like you missconfused -smiles- who see things like that, and I love it. But I also know there are many who don't, which is fine. And I understand that, just as i'm not attracted to everyone woman I see or speak with I dont expect everyone to feel the same about me.

But I do agree that in whether I find someone attractive or not I think, now that you mention it, would be a lot of how they present themselves, and how they take care of themselves and appearance so on and so forth. An overweight woman who dresses herself like a woman half her size, i'm sorry, but will never work well with me. But yeah.

I have a suggestion that would work with me; lift weights until you become not only a big man but a powerful man but do not worry about how much you weigh
Women like me love to be overpowered by a large strong man
Find someone who thinks as I do

[FatherTimejr]

oh ive been working on that, unfortunately I have a bit of an issue as it stands that I need to seek out physical therapy for my ankle but my school schedule doesnt quite agree with that -wryly- So my working out has been put on hold. I think i'm going to get some hand held weights for at home.

As it stands im naturally fairly strong as is however.

[Laila]

Oh cominjg in so late! But I wanna put in my two cents as well:

I am overweight myself so that is probably my own little bias.

Do I feel repelled by 'fat' or 'skinny' people?
Repelled is such a strong word, really. I thought about this and for me its not just a question of weight but of proportion. I was at the swimming pool today (lol I may be fat but I do work out) and I saw a girl that I would guess has a healthy bmi but she had odd proportions, short legs, super narrow hips, quite a stomach in comparison to the rest of her body and wide shoulders. I would never call her fat but she just had boy proportions that don't turn me on.
On the other hand there was a girl weighing considerably more but with a nice bum, beautiful round breasts a little bit of stomach... nice curves and I thought she was really beautiful.

I have to say though that this only goes up to a certain amount of weight for me - mostly because I am someone who likes pretty faces. And at some point the face tends to suffer. What I really don't like is when overweight gives a person that sluggish look, when everything about them seems slow - movement, intellect etc.

Being 'fat' myself, I am pretty conscious of how my weight affects the impression I make on people. And I always had to work against that first impression. I dress smart, I wear heels, make-up, nice hair. I just try to make a point of not letting myself go and stay sharp. Lol sub-pride.

As to skinny people - its basically the same. I cannot say that I don't like it - I personally think Keira Knightely is one of the most beautiful women in the world. To be honest I do think she is too skinny but her face is just so damn beautiful.

It's the same in men. My Master is actually a bit too skinny for my taste - if I saw him like any man on the street. But well, I don't. I love him and he's the most handsome man to me.

Its all about face and eyes and charisma and how one thinks about themselves. Yes, that's a clichee but its so true. I may be fat but I am confident and I know I'm pretty anyway and when I go out with friends (all skinny and pretty) I never fail to attract at least one cute guy's attention...

Having said that I do want to loose weight. For myself and because I want my Master to be proud of me. Even if he says I'm beautiful, I want to feel worthy of him. And I want to stop feeling like I always have to fight the first impression and live up to my potential - health reasons play into it as well.