Thanks so much for your input Utburd.

In truth, I've never been good with control. I fear it a little actually, so I'm pretty sure I'm a sub. I could be wrong of course, only time will tell, I suppose.

My bf was never really willing to try anything new. Hated that I needed it a little rough to finish so after a little over 2 years, I never did. Not with him anyways.
As to that second question, I think a little more passion and i guess sense of adventure might have helped. To be honest though, I think I'm here cause I think someone here can tell me.
You're right, the library is a wealth of information.

Thanks again,
Sindy