My two bits.

Interesting topic and there are some interesting personal takes on the Western concept of gender, which is not universal to the human condition. There are many instances in non-Western societies of "multiple genders" recognized regardless of a persons anatomy. There are also multiple roles that people of either sex can take that may be looked on by Western observes as "gender bending" or switching roles but is seen quite differently by the group in question.

It's also a fact that in some other societies, assuming a gendered role does automatically mean that the person in question assumes the sexual lifestyle as well. For example, a woman choosing an otherwise male role in society is not necessarily sexually attracted to women -- she may have other motivations, feelings, aspirations.

Gender is something constructed by society, different from biological sex. The meaning of what is to be male in terms of gender will be different in different societies. Are there some general patterns? Sure. But it does not surprise me that people don't always view themselves as conforming to the "normal" concept of gender. Nor should we feel constricted to do so.

I'd say that I fit the general Western concept of male gender and never thought otherwise, but it never surprises me that there are a multitude of different personal perspectives on gender in the world.