Hi again Sindy,

Thaks for putting your thoughts up, as Lucy says Tasking may be a good idea, gives you something to explore without being in a relationship.

From what youve said, here are my thoughts;

dont forget there are 6 parts of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline,[Dom and Sub] Sadist, Masochist and that everyone likes them to different levels, (eg Lifestyle or just play depending on how far/deep you want to go)

People dont have to like or enjoy all of them, so to me it sounds like youre more along the line of masochist, and maybe just a touch sub because you like to be on the receiving end.

But again as Lucy says, no one can really help you find what you like aside from helping you experiment, but tbh Ive found that every relationship Ive been in has given me different specific things I like, and that I havent done in another relationship.

but this is a good place to bounce ideas about and read about things that may not have occurred to you before.

I hope you find a way to make progress, and understand what you want a bit better

U.