well im not much of a "somebody" to really care if ppl see and recongize me at a bdsm group munch or event. the particular group i attend, has all walks of life, there's doctors, lawyers, housewifees and blue collar workers in this group, and everyone attend the meetings and play parties for the same reason...to socialize with ppl who share the same interest..BDSM!

i guess over time when you become abit more comfortable with yourself, with your likes your dislikes and realizing that these ppl dont make you, and you can't make everyone happy..then you'll see that all this worry about "reputation" mightve been abit much!