First of all, I would like to thank Shy for starting this thread.
I do respond to both. But think that if you don't have both postive reinforcement and punishment, there is something missing from the relationship. All of one or the other, i think would make a bratty sub as mentioned earlier.
When i was first exploing my submissive side, i did "act out" on occasion in the hopes that i would recieve the punishment i craved. I don't believe this was a topping from the bottom scenerio. I didn't realize until my Sir at the time, said you can just ask/say you need a spanking from me..Since then i haven't acted out very much.
Also mentioned was the knowledge that you have disappointed your Sir as punishment in itself. yes, it is. But without any acknowledgement or discussion, is anything learned?
I think that some punishment should be included. Just this girl thoughts.
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