I have to agree... you say you aren't gifted with verbal skills, but that was amazing. Yes it was very personal, and I very much want to thank you for sharing. It was beautiful to read, and did actually help a bit in the understanding.

There isn't a BDSM page around that doesn't talk about sub space at least now and then. But, it's very hard to find out anything about Dom space.

I wonder if this is in part because Doms often keep their own council. I find that they don't generally speak unless they have something to say, and are very shrewd with whom they choose to let in. I feel so very blessed that my Master chose me, and allows me to see him for who he is. All his feelings, flaws, and beauty.

Do any of you other Doms feel like Bear, that it's something personal, that you don't really want to share?


Quote Originally Posted by TwistedTails View Post
I took some time and gave this question a bit of thought.

The first thing I realized was that I have not been gifted with the language skills for the task.

The second was that this is a intensely personal question I stuck my two cents into, and difficult to answer without being a bit revealing. I don't consider myself a "Dom". but rather a sensual sadist. But I do dominate so perhaps one small example may be relevant.

I can be a bit predatory in my approach. First I tell her exactly what I am about to do to her. I enjoy the mixed look of fear and desire in her eyes, savor it like a candy. Once I order her to her pole, I circle as if sizing up my prey, force her to lower her gaze. It is very primal energy I feel at that point something ancient, something hot that makes the blood boil, then its time to violate her space. As I step close behind just not touching. I breath and I wait. The first thing I'm looking for is the tell. whether it be a shiver, short rapid breaths, lip biting, its a tell that says she has just realized she is about to be taken and surrendered to it. Its a delicious moment. I describe it as delicious because it feeds my hunger for the submission. It fans the flames for the possession to come.

I don't know if I have helped answer you question in any way. If I have not it may help to think of it as Bambi vs Wolf, from the Wolfs point of view.

Bear