Dom space for me is about serious play, about molding and shaping a piece of female flesh and blood and brain into the beauty that is a submissive woman. A bound woman to me is the most beautiful piece of art.

Sometimes it's about control, the heady rush of having a sub at your feet. Other times its about the feedback loop of pain and pleasure: I inflict the pain which she turns into pleasure, which gives me pleasure, so I cause more pain. Is is also about empathy. Her intensity of emotion and arousal spikes a response in my own. To quote a famous politician, I feel her pain.

And to Damyanti's question, sometimes I get lost in the responsibility for my sub's experience. It can be a big burden to be creative in setting and maintaining a scene with the pacing of a broadway show. It can actually be stressful. There are times that I realize I am focusing too much on HER desires and often leave mine out. While it may seem that being Dom is a selfish act, it isn't always.

As always, this really just scratches the surface, and like so many things BDSM related, its so personal that to generalize is almost pointless.