Yep... If he's just not a natural dominant type and isn't really interested in the kinkier side per se, you're unlikely to see much change...

and it's wrong (vanilla or otherwise) to want to change him from the guy you fall in love with to a guy you think you'd like him to be instead. How many relationships fail because the one thinks the partner has potential... could be changed?

If you want to stick with him, I suggest discussing a polyamorous relationship.

Opening Up by tristan Taomino is an excellent look at the many different ways to approach it. But if you want your cake and want to eat it too... it's not a bad way to go.

I think you will find most of the "my bf isn't dom enough" threads come to the conclusion if they don't come by it naturally, you aren't going to be satisfied. That's why the prior comments along that vein came so quickly...

Regardless, I hope you find your answers and

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