First of all, Welcome to the site. Second, I know where you're coming from, I've been a sub for a little over a year now and am 42. It is difficult to find a Dom who would fill the other half that would make you complete. Granted, I did get lucky and found mine after four months on a site called CollarMe.com. And even then without my girlfriend telling me about the site, it would have been longer...I met all my Doms on line first, to get a feel of what they "demand" of me and most were very harsh even in thier words...I wouldn't stand for some of the things that they wanted, because I didn't want them too...yes, you need to want what they want you to do/and do to you. Hm, getting wordy, if you care to talk more contact me and maybe we can IM sometime...best wishes...Fate...