anal

[BrightFyrefly]

Alright, I've seen a lot of people who responded in both ways. Here's my take. Anal needs to be with someone you trust, since you can't really relax enough to enjoy it if you don't trust them. As for being female and liking anal...

Yes...I do. Very much. I think I have had much stronger orgasms with anal than I have with vaginal sex...but that's just me.

[Big Girl]

I myself am an anal virgin, however when I am owned by a real time master, I expect that it will be his to take.

[denuseri]

just the word makes me quiver. blushes

[yummysubmummy]

Must agree...it can be very good if done properly, or very bad if not.
I can't tell if it's pleasurable or not or if it's just in my mind (and I'm not usually in a state to analyse this conundrum) - the submissiveness of surrendering myself in that way is a huge turn on for me, and I love it. *blushes*

[sassy75]

I personally love anal. But, there are times that it's just not going to work. I have to be totally relaxed or the initial penetration is too much to bear. If I'm with a partner that isn't experienced with anal and he's trying to rush it, it's not going to work and I'll end up screaming at him to get out. It really does require some patience on the man's part for me. Just take it slow, let me get accustomed to it and it will be a great ride for all involved.

[steelish]

I'm with denuseri; even just the thought of it sends goosebumps across my body. I LOVE anal!

[lucy]

like sassy75 said: if he takes his time and is patient and with me being in the right mood it's great, otherwise it likely ruins the moment completely.

[Kaitlyn]

I totally love anal ,my orgasms are alot more intense when I do it,maybe because I feel more naughty and that I dont have anal as much as i would like

[lozzy]

mmm yum. i also quite enjoy anal, and in my relationship its never ever been used as a 'real' punishment, although we do often play little games when I'm being a bit bratty and he threatens it - to which of course i just play up more!

The first time i did it though was in a backpackers hostel, in the toilets when we were both raging drunk and the guy i was with... uhm... missed the right hole. That wasnt a pleasant start. The second time was worse as well - i ended up bleeding from the chafing because we went too quickly.


But my current boyfriend and i went for 'third time lucky' and omg im SO glad we did!!! yum yum yumm!!!

[hotfirefly]

I echo a lot of the sentiments so far that anal can be very great. It feels like the ultimate submission. I feel completely owned and possessed.

I do have to be really in the submissive head-space and very, very turned on. Sometimes a little alcohol doesn't hurt either. Just enough that I feel my inhibitions loosen. but you've got to be careful not to have too much because then you might not feel pain that is telling you to slow down.

Lubrication is also very important. Master usually has me lube myself up. It feels a little humiliating, a lot naughty, and just gets me in the mood even more. I'd recommend a towel underneath as well, things can get slippery.

[slave eswn]

hi A/all...i don't usually post anything except in the fun and games...but i wandered across this thread and in need of some help. i have recently become owned by Lord Pathfinder. He is a wonderful man and Master. however, anal is to be a big part of O/our lives once i am in scotland, and it is new to me. i have engaged once before, but it was against my wishes. i was raped. Master is aware of this, and feels with patience and understanding, He will help me find it exciting and satisfying. i most definately want to and will please my Master, but find i am very ignorant of the subject. if anyone has any helpfull suggestions they would be willing to share with me, please, please feel free to message me at LordPathfinder&pink. i will certainly appreciate any real advice anyone can offer.
i understand some aspects of the act of anal intercourse, but there is so much i still need to know, and would really like to be able to be 'ready' for my Master when the time comes
thank Y/you all very much....and please, when Y/you visit at Master and my site, please refer to me by the name my Master has chosen for me 'pink'
thanks very much

[PropertyOfMasterJoey]

ugh i've gotta be honest Y/yall anal grosses me out and scares me. i dunno why, i mean i'm into all kinds of totally taboo stuff but then one of the most common ones i can't even imagine doing. i feel so horrible cuz i know Master really want to and i've tried so hard to give Him this but every time W/we're about to i freak out and plead with Him to stop for real. i dunno why but i have this total emotional, mental, and physical block against it. Master tells me it's ok and i don't have to, but i still feel so guilty that i can't give my Master something that would please Him.

[lucy]

i understand some aspects of the act of anal intercourse, but there is so much i still need to know, and would really like to be able to be 'ready' for my Master when the time comes

Hello eswn. I'm very sorry to hear that. And to be honest, i'm not sure what you're asking for. However, i do know that i would want to get "ready" together with my Master, not on my own.
Wish you all the best!

[dutchsub]

i don't like it.. but hating it is a big word.
For Him its just the way to bring my back to my small me. Humiliated? a little, hurt a little. but most of all proud that i can give it to Him if He wants it. my ass, like the rest of my body belongs to him. so i'm only greatfull whenever He decides to take His rights and also use my that way. greatfull that He doesn't show consediration about me not liking it. Because of that feeling i even can enjoy the moment in a strange kind of way..

sorry for my spelling and grammer but english is not my first language ..

greetings heleen{Mr_Ro}

[shayna{L_D}]

anal is a no no in my book. My frist anal expierence was HORRIBlE, granted i was young (15) but still it was H O R I B B L E. Fast-forward ( rewind, whichever) to about 1 year and a half ago and i was with my now ex-girlfriend, and she loved anal, so i would do it just becuase she liked it. And i still hated it then, i would cry, whine, throw a fit (mind you this wasnt a D/s relationship), make up reasons why i didnt want to do it. But in the end, i just DO NOT LIKE ANAL, fingers are okay, anything more then that, is definetly a hard limit. My straw hat goes off to all of you subs out there that just love anal, but for me its a no go. Period.

just my two cents

[lucky#13]

i enjoy and hate anal at the sametime... i have had it done to me several times... my one partner on a regular basis... it hurts like hell but at the sametime the excitement of giving my most intiment hole to them i luv... not to mention after the inital entry and a few minutes in it does start to feel better... i think i would enjoy it more if i was given lube... i have only been in vanilla relationships so it usually was a suprise from behind when i was given it and hurt like a bitch cuz there was no lube... so yes i do enjoy it but more for the surrender part then the actual deed i suppose

[BDMjane]

I'm an anal virgin but I don't mind to try it if he wants too.

[Guest102708b]

Me and my Sir do it.......and i LOVE it...i didnt used to...but now that weve gotten the idea to stretch me for a little while before hand, its fantastic. My sir USED to use it as a "punishment" when we were vanilla when i was a "naughty girl" but as soon Id come, hed stop...now that weve figured out how to make it enjoyable for both of us, i think we'll be doing it alot more.

[overxposedpet]

I love anal when they know what they are doing... lube lube and more lube and lotsa time, however, I have to admit once Sir just slipped in with no lube and it was totally amazing... I looked at him like, how come it didn't hurt?!

Its so naughty, which is what makes it so nice.

[Wicked Clown]

My girl and I both plan on having anal. She has had anal before and liked it, but she wants to give a guy the same feeling. That guy is me. I have had fun on my own with a dildo and loved it too. Both of us will be clean, since she wants me to give her an enema; her first ever. I can't wait for her to come over, I love her so much.

[leah06]

ugh i've gotta be honest Y/yall anal grosses me out and scares me. i dunno why, i mean i'm into all kinds of totally taboo stuff but then one of the most common ones i can't even imagine doing. i feel so horrible cuz i know Master really want to and i've tried so hard to give Him this but every time W/we're about to i freak out and plead with Him to stop for real. i dunno why but i have this total emotional, mental, and physical block against it. Master tells me it's ok and i don't have to, but i still feel so guilty that i can't give my Master something that would please Him.

This is from Dan Savage's Savage Love column of Sept. 25. Obviously, it is not directed at M/s relationships, but some people on this site might find it useful:

I am a 27-year-old hetero female. My new boyfriend is 24 and kinky. Before I met him, I had never been bound or spanked or had any kind of sex that was not "vanilla." I have enjoyed everything we have done and I trust him. Now he wants anal sex. He has what I think is an average dick—based on the three others I've seen—but I'm afraid that it will be painful. Am I a big baby?

Another Needing Anal Lessons

I order you to start having anal sex with your boyfriend immediately, ANAL. Tons of anal—but without letting your boyfriend's cock come anywhere near your ass, 'kay?

In other words: yes to anal, no to dick. Think tongues, lubed-up fingers, very small toys, and smooth, clean vibrators used non-insertively (which is fancy sex-advice talk for "lay the vibrator on your asshole, don't shove it the fuck in"). If you find that you enjoy other kinds of anal sex—and you will—your boyfriend's dick may start to look like a shiny new toy, or an enticing upgrade, and not the intimidating asshammer that it appears to be now.

But for this to work, your boyfriend has to swear on a stack of Jack Morin's Anal and Pleasure & Healths that he will pleasure your ass, and get you off, without attempting to rush you or pressure you into dick-in-ass buttfucking until you decide you're ready.

[Veralynne]

Anal ftw ftw ftw ftw.

I don't think I can stress it enough- even if you don't think you "can" or could like it... it is just a matter of practice and technique. Refer to rachel06's useful post if you still feel reluctant.

I've have had so much faster and better orgasms- and not just because of the mental aspect- there is a real physical spot I feel is much better than any supposed "g-spot" stimulation.

With that said- done "wrong" (or perhaps "right" in certain circumstances)- anal can definitely cause extreme pain. Again- technique- and practice! Your ass needs to learn to accomodate that dick! :-P

[miimii]

I find this htread very interesting. I love Love LOVE L O V E anal! LOL I actually prefer it to vaginal sex. Maybe it's because I just love to have my ass up in the air. LOL I was introduced to it in my teens and the guy was very adamant that he wanted it but I HAD to be relaxed and really believe that he wasn't going to hurt me before he would try it. Then in my early twenties, I met a guy who wanted it all the time and we actually got to the point where he could do it without any lube and he was HUNG!

I have found though in my old age now that if it isn't done correctly, I can't do it. I must be lubed and streched out first and then I can take it for hours and hours. Anal is like normal sex to me and not really an act of submission. If I'm with someone who I know does it well, I will just suffer through the traditional until I can get it in my ass. Is it really submission if you want that more than regular sex?

[submic08]

What disease should I be concerned with? I had my first scene the other night and it included anal to mouth?

[meeker]

l do do it...lol.Yes in some aspects it can be used for punishment,anal unlike most vaginal sex,can be pleasurable,painful and both.As Far as demands that is a something within the relationship,im a huge dp slut,so most of the time i usualy have to at some point have both sensations to feel satisfied...

[meeker]

What do you mean by diesease?The anus is full of bacteria,(psstt its were your shit comes out)as far as std's yes that is another way it can be passed.Rule of thumb once its in the ass it goes no where else,vagina,mouth etc,good sanitary,wash before going somewherre else,or use condom for anal and remove condom,before going anywhere else.When going from anal to vaginal you can get uti's etc,as far as mouth im not too educated about it atm,cause it wasnt something i really looked into,but if you want me to research and find out exactely what sickness and such you can get from that i will,just let me know.

What disease should I be concerned with? I had my first scene the other night and it included anal to mouth?

[flying66]

well I enjoy it... and no, I don't believe all Dom/Dommes would demand it of their submissives because... well, it's kind of silly to think that all of them would want the exact same thing! just like subs never all want the exact same thing.

I did see in one of the Dom threads though, that anal sex was considered to be one of the most submissive things a sub could offer.

What matters most is whether or not you want to offer anal sex to your Dom/me because if it's a hard limit for you, then your Dom/me shoudln't demand it of you.

Whether or not anal would be used as punishment would depend on the sub I suppose... some hate it but it isn't a hard limit so it could be a punishment then... for me sometimes it's a punishment, depends on the context and how it's delivered because I rather enjoy it.

hope my post helped!